嫁女择佳婿——读《议婚集》与《金玉缘谱》随想

发布时间：2018-05-03 21:34

  本文选题：议婚 + 金玉缘　； 参考：《中国图书评论》2012年05期

【摘要】：正议婚集,钱基厚辑撰,铅印线装,非卖品,1935金玉缘谱,钱基博编,石声淮写录,石印线装,非卖品,1942钱基厚嫁女儿,虽然仍是"父母之命,媒妁之言",但其中的变化已然显露。宽而言之,《议婚集》展现出了某些现代精神:第一,尊重子女的意愿,即使在钟元故出难题的情况下,两位老人也未放弃"爱子为计深远"的古训,多方劝导说服,拳拳爱护子女之意,尽于言表。第二,开诚布公,在男女双方了解过程中,不掩饰,不护短,倡导"知己知彼"、"识性同居"诸义,可谓谆谆教诲,期许甚殷。第三,讲求教育策略,并不摆家长威风,武断一切,以已之意替子
[Abstract]:We are discussing marriage collection, Qian Ji-hou compilation, lead print, non-selling article 1935, Jin Yu Yuan Yuan spectrum, Qian Jibo editor, Shi Sheng-huai writing record, stone print line dress, non-selling goods 1942 Qianji Hou married daughter, although it is still "the order of the parents." The words of matchmaker, but the changes in them have already been revealed. Broadly speaking, some modern spirits have been revealed in the "discussion on Marriage". First, respect for the wishes of the children. Even under the difficult circumstances of Zhong Yuan, the two old people have not given up the old admonition that "loving their son is a profound plan," and have been persuading and persuading them in many ways. The meaning of caring for your children with your fist is as much as you can say. Second, openness, in the process of understanding men and women, do not cover up, do not protect weaknesses, advocate "know their own enemy", "sexual cohabitation" of the meaning, it can be said to inculcate, expect very much. Third, emphasize the education strategy, do not put on the authority of the parents, arbitrary everything, with the will to replace the children
【作者单位】： 湖南科技学院国学研究所;
【分类号】：K892.22;K26
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