跨文化交际论文

The Gender Differences in Communication

摘要：本文主要利用观察到的异性大学生在交流中表现出来的言语差异和非言语差异，从跨文化交际中性别差异的层面浅谈产生差异的原因。希望异性在了解差异，并利用共性的基础上互相谅解，到达更好的交流效果，促进异性同学间的情感交流，促进情侣关系的发展，将来夫妻关系的和睦，最终促进社会关系的和谐。同时希望跨文化交际和交流能对本文化中的亚文化多一些研究，，促进本国的发展：如让在校大学生早日了解异性交流的差异，让他们在学校能健康发展，在他们步入社会后在工作和生活中能从交流差异中得到启发和帮助。

1. Phenomenon and the descriptions of differences between two genders

According to my daily observations about college students, I mainly observed them from two situations. The first one was that there were only girls or boys in the conversations. The second one was that the conversations involved two genders.

1.1 The phenomenon and the descriptions in single-sex discussion groups

1.1.1 Differences in content of talk

In single-sex discussion groups, girls talk a lot about their private lives and some trivial things, such as gossiping people especially their qualities, boyfriends or girlfriends, stars, shopping, and fashion, dressing and so on. Boys, on the other hand, rarely talked about their personal relationships and feelings but mainly talk about current affairs on news, sports especially NBA, and movies, computer games as well as girls.

1.1.2 The differences in topic maintenance

Meantime, girls often use different responses to maintain the conversation, such as “yes.”, “I agree.”, “I also have that kind of feeling.” etc. They try to make everyone have a chance to express their feelings. They usually pose some questions related to the topic to show their interests in the topic. So their topic can last for a long time on the basis of corporation. While as for boys, they use less minimal responses and don’t consider others’ speaking chances too much; there is a person who talk all the time as others talk less, so their topics shift very quickly. They use more interjections when changing topics such as “Hey!”, “Oh”, “Listen！” etc.

1.1.3 The difference in verbal abuse

Besides, girls seldom use verbal abuse; their communication is polite, friendly and gently. Their pet phrases don’t relate to verbal abuse. They often use“Oh，dear! ”,“Oh，God! ”,“God bless me! ” and“My God! ”,“Good God! ”,etc. However, boys always speak very rudely to each other, such as “shit!”, “damned!”, and “God damn it!”, “Fuck you!” etc. In fact, those words also have been regarded as pet phrases and don’t think they are not suitable to use.

1.2 The phenomenon and the descriptions in mixed-sex discussion groups

1.2.1 The differences in interpretations

When girls and boys talk together, girls often first put forward a topic, but during their