教育如何面对自恋的人？
发布时间：2018-07-28 13:15
【摘要】：“自恋”这个词的出现对于大家而言并不陌生,自恋现象也是层出不穷,网络中、生活中自诩为“自恋者”的人更是不少见,但所谓的自恋到底是什么呢?本文认为自恋就是对自己的一种迷恋,就是将自己作为衡量世界万事万物的尺度和标准。自恋的形成有着一定的历史根源,它是在人类摆脱了上帝和神学的束缚,获得了独立与自由的基础上,在自我解放和自我张扬的现代意识的推动下一种自我中心主义的极端表现。其中一个最显著的特征就是对自身的盲目信任和爱,同样是对自己的信任与爱,与自爱和自信却存在着本质的区别。 自恋者对自我的极度关注不可避免地造成了一些后果,首先自恋的产生导致了公共世界的夭折。自恋者脱离了公共领域,退回到自己的私人领域之中,导致了公共空间的死亡；同时由于自恋者的眼中只有自己,只在乎自己的利益,成了公民的敌人。其次,由于自恋是自私的基石,自私是在自恋的基础上产生的,是自恋的深化,所以自恋者不可避免地滑向了利己主义者。作为一个特殊的群体——青少年学生,生活在这样一个自恋主义的文化之中,难以逃脱这种文化的影响,而除了文化的因素之外,青少年学生自恋的产生更有其特殊的根基,首先是在要求张扬个性的时代,学生对个性认识存在的误区；其次是由于这是一个独生子女的时代,“四二一家庭模式”对青少年学生投注了更多的爱,也可称为溺爱。 学校是社会关注的一个焦点,是培养社会人才的一个场所,但是否可以躲避自恋风暴带来的这场灾难呢?答案并不令人满意。其原因是多方面的：首先表现为学校本身就具有自恋的本性；学生将学校视为实现个人目标的中转站,是自己收获成功的一种手段；同时教师在教学过程中也难免具有自恋的倾向。从而不得不承认学校成了造就自恋者的场所。针对学校中的这种现象,教育必须发挥其引导作用以缓和自恋,首先教育要使人走出自我,重新认识自我；其次,应该重构教育的公共性,使师生在行动中培养公共精神和公共生活的能力；最后要培养学生“爱”的能力,不仅仅是爱自己,更要能够做到爱他人。
[Abstract]:The emergence of the word "narcissism" is no stranger to us. Narcissism is also a phenomenon that emerges in endlessly. In the Internet, people who claim to be "narcissists" in life are not uncommon. But what is narcissism?. This paper holds that narcissism is a kind of infatuation with oneself, which is regarded as the yardstick and standard of measuring everything in the world. The formation of narcissism has a certain historical origin. It is on the basis of the human being free from the bondage of God and theology and gaining independence and freedom. The extreme manifestation of self-centrism is driven by self-liberation and self-publicizing modern consciousness. One of the most prominent characteristics is the blind trust and love of oneself, and also the trust and love of oneself, but there is an essential difference between them and self-love and self-confidence. Narcissists' extreme concern for themselves inevitably leads to some consequences. First, narcissism causes the collapse of the public world. Narcissists have left the public sphere and retreated into their own private sphere, resulting in the death of public space. At the same time, narcissists have only their own eyes, only care about their own interests, become the enemy of citizens. Secondly, narcissism is the cornerstone of selfishness, selfishness is born on the basis of narcissism, it is the deepening of narcissism, so narcissists inevitably slide to egoists. As a special group-young students, living in such a narcissistic culture, it is difficult to escape the influence of this culture. In addition to cultural factors, the emergence of narcissism among young students has its own special foundation. First of all, in the era of demanding publicity of personality, students have misunderstandings of personality; secondly, because this is an era of only child, the "4 / 21 family model" has invested more love to young students, which can also be called doting. School is a focus of social concern, is a place to train social talents, but can we avoid the storm of narcissism brought about by this disaster? The answer is not satisfactory. The reasons are as follows: firstly, the school itself has the nature of narcissism, and the students regard the school as a transit station to achieve their personal goals, which is a means of their own success. At the same time, teachers also have the tendency of narcissism in the teaching process. Thus it has to be admitted that the school has become a place for narcissists. In view of this phenomenon in schools, education must play its leading role in order to ease narcissism. First, education should make people go out of themselves and re-understand themselves; secondly, the publicity of education should be reconstructed. Finally, it is necessary to cultivate students' ability of "love", not only to love themselves, but also to love others.
【学位授予单位】：南京师范大学
【学位级别】：硕士
【学位授予年份】：2011
【分类号】：G410
本文编号：2150267
[Abstract]:The emergence of the word "narcissism" is no stranger to us. Narcissism is also a phenomenon that emerges in endlessly. In the Internet, people who claim to be "narcissists" in life are not uncommon. But what is narcissism?. This paper holds that narcissism is a kind of infatuation with oneself, which is regarded as the yardstick and standard of measuring everything in the world. The formation of narcissism has a certain historical origin. It is on the basis of the human being free from the bondage of God and theology and gaining independence and freedom. The extreme manifestation of self-centrism is driven by self-liberation and self-publicizing modern consciousness. One of the most prominent characteristics is the blind trust and love of oneself, and also the trust and love of oneself, but there is an essential difference between them and self-love and self-confidence. Narcissists' extreme concern for themselves inevitably leads to some consequences. First, narcissism causes the collapse of the public world. Narcissists have left the public sphere and retreated into their own private sphere, resulting in the death of public space. At the same time, narcissists have only their own eyes, only care about their own interests, become the enemy of citizens. Secondly, narcissism is the cornerstone of selfishness, selfishness is born on the basis of narcissism, it is the deepening of narcissism, so narcissists inevitably slide to egoists. As a special group-young students, living in such a narcissistic culture, it is difficult to escape the influence of this culture. In addition to cultural factors, the emergence of narcissism among young students has its own special foundation. First of all, in the era of demanding publicity of personality, students have misunderstandings of personality; secondly, because this is an era of only child, the "4 / 21 family model" has invested more love to young students, which can also be called doting. School is a focus of social concern, is a place to train social talents, but can we avoid the storm of narcissism brought about by this disaster? The answer is not satisfactory. The reasons are as follows: firstly, the school itself has the nature of narcissism, and the students regard the school as a transit station to achieve their personal goals, which is a means of their own success. At the same time, teachers also have the tendency of narcissism in the teaching process. Thus it has to be admitted that the school has become a place for narcissists. In view of this phenomenon in schools, education must play its leading role in order to ease narcissism. First, education should make people go out of themselves and re-understand themselves; secondly, the publicity of education should be reconstructed. Finally, it is necessary to cultivate students' ability of "love", not only to love themselves, but also to love others.
【学位授予单位】：南京师范大学
【学位级别】：硕士
【学位授予年份】：2011
【分类号】：G410
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